As a man, there’s a harsh truth that I have to admit: most men are terrible at flirting. Are there exceptions to that rule? Of course. Whenever a man is struggling to flirt with a girl, there always seems to be a suave Brazilian helicopter pilot nearby who can swoop in and talk about anything.
However, that doesn’t mean all hope is lost, dudes. If you really want to know how to get a girl to like you, flirting isn’t the answer. That sounds counter-productive, but there’s only so far you can get with a woman by tenaciously pursuing her. If she wasn’t interested in the first place, she’s going to put an end to that really fast.
The key is making her do an equal share of the work. You need to make a girl want you as much as you want her. But how do you do accomplish that? How you do convince a woman that she should be attracted to you?
If you’re struggling to figure out how to attract women, here are four techniques that will make a girl like you.
Be curious; ask her about herself.
Be genuinely interested in learning about her life and the things that are important to her. Don’t be a creepy stalker about it, but show her that you actually care enough to ask follow-up questions.
Take care of yourself.
Presentation matters. You don’t have to be the most attractive guy in the world. Women, bless them, have a long history of being accommodating with dating beneath their own level of hotness. But if they’re willing to overlook your love handles and thinning hair, you need to show some effort.
Keep the hygiene on point. Get a haircut. And don’t always wear the same hoodie. Show her that you actually know how to take care of yourself.
Make her laugh — the right way.
‘Women love a sense of humor’ is an old cliché, but it’s true. Being funny can be a really attractive quality if you do it right. You definitely don’t want to be funny in a mean way.
Remember, show her your best. So, no making fun of people or making raw rude jokes. If you’re going to mock someone, mock yourself. Make sure that she knows that your humor comes with a side of empathy and self-awareness, but, you know… be really funny too.
Lastly, flirt … just a little bit.
I know I said flirting wasn’t the answer, but what I meant was, it’s not the only answer. When the moment presents itself, it’s not a bad thing to let a woman know that you see her as an attractive person.
Keep things casual. Maybe just compliment her; or make statements like, “Wow, you look great tonight.” But leave it there — don’t overdo it.
Just offer enough that she can tell that you think she’s awesome, but don’t actively hit on her to the point where she’s going to be uncomfortable hanging out with you anymore. If she picks up on the small openings you’re giving her, she’ll find a way to let you know that she’s interested too.
And if she doesn’t, well… it wasn’t meant to be.
Here are just a few tips to keep you moving . Keep in mind that you need to stay true to yourself; never fake yourself.
Story by: Sandra Ankomah | univers.ug.edu.gh